Good evening. The following article written by Deborrah Cooper but made widely popular by CNN has sparked deep discussion among personal and social peers.
It basically implies that “black” churches are hindering women from getting married. WRONG.
The idea that the predominant racial makeup of a house of worship (church) affects whether someone gets married or not is lunacy.
Before I go further, I’ll be referring to the term “church” as it is most commonly misunderstood as – a building rather than it’s true definition as “the body of Christ.”
Once again, the world right down to main stream media has tried to understand a certain dynamic and point blame when they fail.
Here’s my perspective. I’m not going to scripture choke you. I’m just going to keep it simple.
Marriage and courtship are so simply laid out in the Bible that its not even funny and you don’t have to be a Bible scholar, theologian, etc to understand it. Bottom line it doesn’t matter if you attend a segregated (it is what it is) church or an integrated, nondenominational church, the Bible and its principles are still the same. The one thing that matters is the foundation of which the pastor/leader of that church bases his/her sermons on. If it’s Bible teaching, it’s simple. Do what the Bible says. If a pastors sermons is based on events of the week, latest gossip in town, their knowledge instead of God’s Word, pulpit retaliation, narcissism, entertainment rather than leadership, or spiritual elitism, then the solution again is easy…seek God for another church. Our spiritual wellbeing is the one thing we can be selfish about. It’s nothing to play with.
If a woman who knows better isn’t positioning herself and preparing herself to become a wife regardless of whether she’s destined to or not, then that’s her fault. If a woman who knows better lives her life solely based on what the preacher says just on Sundays, then it’s her fault. Spiritual growth isn’t limited to 11 Sunday morning. If a woman who knows better doesn’t have a conviction about living righteously with respect for herself and her body, then it’s her fault.
If one is to say a woman’s church is the reason why she isn’t married then it’s not the church (Body of Christ), it’s the teaching of that local body (church/house of worship) which obviously isn’t God’s word.
If a woman is a part of a Bible teaching church and is reading and applying the Word of God to her life as it is written and she still isn’t married, so what. She doesn’t have to go out looking and doesn’t have to settle. She only needs to keep doing what she’s doing. That just means 1 of 2 things: she is destined to be married OR it isn’t time. You do know it’s okay if things don’t happen RIGHT now, right?
Lastly, if a woman is a part of a Bible teaching church and knows the Word but chooses not to live by it and apply it to her life and doesn’t prepare herself to be the woman of God Proverbs speaks of, then she must need NOT complain about being single and lonely. Oh and just for kicks, being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely.
Regardless of a person’s race or local church body makeup, there is one thing that will never be different – God’s Word and that encompasses life and love.
Last word…as a leader in main stream news media, CNN should really stop trying to be all “deep” and stop trying to work out all the problems of Blacks and other minorities (i.e. Black in America). Who do they think they are? God? Stick to reporting real headlines news and the things that affect us going forward if that’s still a CNN mission. Blacks and minorities live their lives every day and feel the affects first hand and frankly don’t need the very thing we’re trying to overcome to be constantly played on by the media. We know our own pains…trust me, and we don’t need you blowing up some personal blog on a topic that’s larger than your viewing audience. Spirituality is a serious matter. Stop playing with it.
Peace – Kimberly
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Kimberly, if you read only the CNN article, you read what was written by a CNN reporter, not me. That article was ABOUT my article, but it was not my article at all.
To read what I wrote, you must go to my blog at http://www.survivingdating.com/?p=1229
Thanks for commenting. Yes, I’ve read both articles. Don’t take it personal but I am just really passionate about relationships. Though I would have been a bit more specific, I do feel where you’re coming from.