It basically implies that “black” churches are hindering women from getting married. WRONG.

The idea that the predominant racial makeup of a house of worship (church) affects whether someone gets married or not is lunacy.

Before I go further, I’ll be referring to the term “church” as it is most commonly misunderstood as – a building rather than it’s true definition as “the body of Christ.”

Once again, the world right down to main stream media has tried to understand a certain dynamic and point blame when they fail.

Here’s my perspective. I’m not going to scripture choke you. I’m just going to keep it simple.

Marriage and courtship are so simply laid out in the Bible that its not even funny and you don’t have to be a Bible scholar, theologian, etc to understand it. Bottom line it doesn’t matter if you attend a segregated (it is what it is) church or an integrated, nondenominational church, the Bible and its principles are still the same. The one thing that matters is the foundation of which the pastor/leader of that church bases his/her sermons on. If it’s Bible teaching, it’s simple. Do what the Bible says. If a pastors sermons is based on events of the week, latest gossip in town, their knowledge instead of God’s Word, pulpit retaliation, narcissism, entertainment rather than leadership, or spiritual elitism, then the solution again is easy…seek God for another church.  Our spiritual wellbeing is the one thing we can be selfish about.  It’s nothing to play with.

If a woman who knows better isn’t positioning herself and preparing herself to become a wife regardless of whether she’s destined to or not, then that’s her fault. If a woman who knows better lives her life solely based on what the preacher says just on Sundays, then it’s her fault. Spiritual growth isn’t limited to 11 Sunday morning.  If a woman who knows better doesn’t have a conviction about living righteously with respect for herself and her body, then it’s her fault.

If one is to say a woman’s church is the reason why she isn’t married then it’s not the church (Body of Christ), it’s the teaching of that local body (church/house of worship) which obviously isn’t God’s word.

If a woman is a part of a Bible teaching church and is reading and applying the Word of God to her life as it is written and she still isn’t married, so what. She doesn’t have to go out looking and doesn’t have to settle.  She only needs to keep doing what she’s doing.  That just means 1 of 2 things: she is destined to be married OR it isn’t time. You do know it’s okay if things don’t happen RIGHT now, right?

Lastly, if a woman is a part of a Bible teaching church and knows the Word but chooses not to live by it and apply it to her life and doesn’t prepare herself to be the woman of God Proverbs speaks of, then she must need NOT complain about being single and lonely.  Oh and just for kicks, being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely.

Regardless of a person’s race or local church body makeup, there is one thing that will never be different – God’s Word and that encompasses life and love.

Last word…as a leader in main stream news media, CNN should really stop trying to be all “deep” and stop trying to work out all the problems of  Blacks and other minorities (i.e. Black in America).  Who do they think they are? God?  Stick to reporting real headlines news and the things that affect us going forward if that’s still a CNN mission.  Blacks and minorities live their lives every day and feel the affects first hand and frankly don’t need the very thing we’re trying to overcome to be constantly played on by the media.  We know our own pains…trust me, and we don’t need you blowing up some personal blog on a topic that’s larger than your viewing audience.  Spirituality is a serious matter. Stop playing with it.
Peace – Kimberly

-Chrisette Michele

There’s a beauty that lives so deep inside each of us.

There’s a fickle eye that doesn’t believe anything it sees.

There’s a benefit in love that erases all doubt and believes good intentions.

There’s an ear that isn’t free enough to give the honest man the benefit of the doubt cluttered by lies not-mentioned.

Since when is creativity subject to criticism?

When is honesty subject to a jury of fears who wouldn’t believe rain if it fell, or sun if it shined?

Sometimes a flower grows when no ones watching.

Sometimes a bird sings and no one hears.

There’s a meadow no one runs on and a cloud no one names.

And what would the sky be with out the sun?

What would the earth be with out its rose?

They’d still be the sky and the Earth.

So perhaps there is a peace in becoming.

Perhaps the meaning is in the experience and not the sight.

Maybe a flower grows because it suffocates under ground.

Whether or not she is always noticed, beauty must become.

She doesn’t look for an eye.

She doesn’t listen for a voice.

She just becomes,

For Freedom Not For Beauty

-Chrisette Michele

“You have to be careful about writing off people over one season in their life. People will judge you at one stage in your life. They think that because of something you did at one stage in your life, there is a continuum the rest of your life. What they don’t realize is that the same person who messed up back there, repented over there, and got set free right here. That was then; this is NOW.” – Bishop T.D. Jakes

Peace – Kimberly

Peace – Kimberly

We are much the same. The same God that elevates us, is the same God that brings us to our knees. Its not that he has poor navigation or operates with cruel intent, but instead He operates in timing and seasons. When we catch our wind at the wrong time, we crash, but if we allow Him to queue us up for take off, we soar like never before!

Peace – Kimberly
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peace – kimberly

Peace – Kimberly

K.M. Cooley

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E, thanx for the inspiration today; the fellowship was outstanding! You truly are "the" rock star in my life…I heard Rae thinks so too!

Peace – Kimberly

K.M. Cooley
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